I find it peculiar that most of the body shaming crap is entirely one sided as of late.
I can’t tell you how many times people have told me I should “eat more” that I “need to eat a cheese burger” I’m, “too skinny”, and now that I’m pregnant, that my “belly is too small.” And big surprise “So I need to eat more.” I get that some are joking but I think they’re serious behind the laughter, honestly.
If I were overweight would anyone tell me to stop eating so much besides maybe a doctor? Would they say “Damn, lay off the cheese burgers you’re getting too big”?
Or if I started gaining a ton of weight during this pregnancy would someone say, “Eating for two, huh?”
99% of people would not say a word. And if they did everyone would be in an uproar about it!
I’ve been wanting to write about this for a while but a news story I saw today set this off for me. This is an ad going around in the UK and thousands are apparently petitioning to get it removed because it’s “body shaming”. They are trying to ban ALL ads like this now. Like for real.
Also, note the writing on the wall.(Photo source http://www.itv.com/news/2015-07-01/beach-body-ready-ad-ruled-inoffensive/)
OH But this isn’t body shaming because they don’t look like the girl above?
(photo source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3062882/Yes-beach-body-ready-New-poster-featuring-curvy-bikini-clad-women-spoofs-controversial-Protein-World-ad.html)
Why is it that a lean woman in a bikini makes people so angry? Does someone else’s appearance really make people feel so bad about themselves? If that ad makes you angry, instead of “poor me” thinking, how about you do something about it instead of whine. Or maybe we all need to just stop comparing bodies and be happy with ourselves. OR maybe people need to stop being so damn sensitive. (And in case you didn’t notice, none of the women in the Dove Ad photo’s are fat.)
The girl in the ad being slammed doesn’t look starving to me. Yes, she’s thin (too thin in some people’s eyes?) compared to the average person in any developed country BUT the average person is now also considered overweight.
Statistically in the U.S. (this is where I live so I’m using it as reference) and according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
- More than two-thirds (68.8 percent) of adults are considered to be overweight or obese.
- More than one-third (35.7 percent) of adults are considered to be obese.
- More than 1 in 20 (6.3 percent) have extreme obesity.
I get that the ad is insinuating that to be “beach body ready” a woman needs to look like her by having a small waist and thin legs. And most likely she’s been photo shopped in some way. This insinuation isn’t true. Go to the beach with ANY body.
But seriously, it’s a catchy slogan. That’s all. The only reason ads like this work is because a vast majority of women wish they looked like her. SHE sells their product with her BODY.
The weight loss industry makes billions a year for a reason.
Still, there are those who get offended because the ad is basically telling the reader to lose weight.
It’s not unrealistic to eat a healthy diet and exercise or to look similar to the woman in the ad. I was very healthy and looked close to what she does (before pregnancy, I now have a belly) and guess what? It wasn’t that hard to do once I decided to get active and changed my diet up.Maybe I’m not as “skinny” as the model here but does it bother me? No. We have different body types. So what?
I eat real food, not processed junk or fast food all the time (like I once did) and I only eat when I’m hungry. Crazy concept, I know. I’m healthy, that’s what matters. Most likely the model is healthy too.
Ever since I began losing weight years ago, I faced a lot of back lash. It’s as though people around me wanted me to stay unhealthy and fat.
At 185lbs I was determined to lose some poundage so I’d skip out on the ice cream and burgers and fries for a long time but people would tell me “just have some. It’s not a big deal” or “what? You’re not ever going to eat ice cream again?”
Which of course was over exaggerating. Sure, I eat ice cream and burgers just not as much as I used to.
It frustrated me so much because here I was trying so hard to lose weight, struggling daily, to get healthy and people were sabotaging me.
SHAMING me for trying to be healthy.
I ignored most of it but to this day it bothers me that people make comments all the time about what I’m eating or NOT eating. It bothers me that people didn’t comment on what I ate when I was overweight but it’s okay now that i’m not? #doublestandard
So why is it okay for people to body shame the fit model or me or anyone trying to lose weight and get fit but it’s the end of the world, if heaven forbid, someone says for an overweight person who is ruining their health to do something about it?
You can destroy a friendship for life by telling someone they need to lose weight or mention they shouldn’t have that second or third cookie if said person is fat but tell someone who’s a normal healthy weight they need to eat more and it’s no big deal.
I know how it feels to be the “chubby girl” but never did I once hate myself or get offended because someone else’s appearance. It’s an internal issue not an outward one.
Sure I’m guilty of making comments.When I was a kid I used to call my brother “string bean” because he was so scrawny and he’d get mad. Lucky for him he never called me chubby or fat because I’m older lol. Of course it would have hurt my feelings but it hurt his that i called him names just the same.
The only time someone should the concerned about someone being “so skinny, they need to eat more” is if that man or woman is extremely underweight and has an eating disorder. Only then is it unhealthy! Only then should it be a concern.
I’m most definitely not promoting the shaming of ANY BODY. Especially anyone who is overweight. It disgusts me when people make fun of someone in the gym who is heavy. Like HELLO they are there to better themselves. If how ugly the person who makes fun of others for their weight were on the inside showed on the outside maybe we’d all be laughing at them?
Weight is a sensitive issue for many. It’s not easy to lose weight and change habits. If it was then no one would have a problem. Some people are naturally skinny and have a hard time gaining weight. Some women wished they had more curves! Someone else’s weight whether thin of fat simply doesn’t need to be commented on.
Shaming isn’t the right way to go about it. I don’t know a single person who decided to lose weight because people made fun of them for their size, in fact it usually has the opposite effect. Or a woman that’s “too thin” suddenly decides to eat more because you said so. People don’t work like that so how about everyone just keeps their body shaming thoughts to themselves for either side.
Encouraging a healthy lifestyle by leading a healthy lifestyle is a good way to inspire others. But someone who isn’t healthy and tries to bring someone else down because of it, shut up.
I only bring this up because I don’t think this side of the coin is talked about much.
What are your thoughts?