A Guide To Happiness In A Crazy World

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I remember being an 18 year old girl, who just graduated high school and was completely lost. My parents had gotten divorced, I didn’t have a lot of friends, and I didn’t want to go to college. I had absolutely no direction. I would spend hours upon hours most days writing a novel I was working on, shut up in the home office. I took a part time job at Big 5 Sporting Goods only because my step mom talked me into it. She told me she was worried because I wasn’t doing ANYTHING but being cooped up in that office all the time writing. (By the way it was an epic like 400 page fantasy that ended up getting lost. Back then we didn’t have “the cloud”… sad face)

It was good for me to work. It got me out of the house and forced me to associate with other people but being a part time cashier was far from my dream job. Most days I woke up in a bad mood.

I asked my coworker once “do you every just wake up pissed off?”

He looked at me with some concern but laughed and said, “No!” he was a happy guy.

But I did, and often. I didn’t know then why I was pissed off. I just was. I had a lot of built up anger from my parents’ divorce, from me gaining so much weight, because boys didn’t like me, from losing friends because I became a recluse, and from having no foreseeable future.

I wanted to be an author, but everyone told me that it was too hard and that they don’t make money. I kept writing anyway because it was literally the only thing that gave me joy at the time. I would get lost in my own imagination of these fantasy worlds I created.

Move to now, well, I’m still an introverted person but I’m genuinely happy. I just turned 30 and honestly thought I’d be further ahead in life in certain areas but I don’t dwell on what I don’t have, not anymore.

I gained 40lbs with Jaylee, my 2 month old baby, and after working so hard to lose weight before I could be upset BUT I got to have a baby! It took me years to get pregnant. So yeah, the weight bothers me but I’m focused on that I have a beautiful, healthy baby, and that I know, and have the drive to get back into shape again.

See happiness is a state of mind. We create it by our daily thoughts and actions.

If I constantly thought about NOT having a new car, or wishing I had a bigger, nicer house then I’d be angry and depressed.

I’m excited because we bought a house! Is it fancy? No, but it ours!

I’m happy that I have a decent car that gets me where I need to go and I don’t have a car payment. Are many people envious of my 05’ Pontiac Grand Prix, doubt it but it’s a smooth ride and works for now!

Each day I focus on what I can do to be healthy instead of how much more weight I need to lose.


See before when I struggled for years, literally years in my own head of how to lose weight. I would stand in front of the mirror and pick at everything I hated… My fat thighs, my big belly. Ew, look at my arms and how they jiggle. Uh stretch marks, can’t wear shorts because people will see them! I’m disgusting … I mean, this was constant. It almost makes me cry because of how mean I was to myself and I know there are others just like i was.

I hated shopping for clothes because I didn’t want to buy whatever size I was in. I hated getting on the scale, like it literally gave me anxiety because when you’re creeping up to 200lbs and all the girls you went to high school with are like a buck 15 tops, it gets to you when you compare.

How could I have been a happy person when I put myself down like that ALL the time?

If I thought that way now I’d be miserable. Am I happy that a lot of my pre pregnancy clothes don’t fit me right now? No, but I know that I’ll be in them soon. How do I know this? Because I made up my mind and I’m actively working at it.

If you want to be happy and ALL of us do, then focus on what you have. I know, you’re probably like , yeah, yeah I know this already… okay smarty pants then WHY AREN’T YOU DOING IT?

Oh, it’s easier said than done, you say? You have so many things going wrong in your life, you say?

Well suck it up and quit dwelling on it.

Is this too tough to hear? Good. Sometimes people need a little straight forwardness in a world where everything is sugar coated.

If you’re not losing the weight and you’ve been stuck at the same size forever and you keep thinking, I just can’t lose weight! Or I’ve tried everything and nothing works.


Maybe you have TRIED a lot of things to lose weight but have you actually just lived a healthy lifestyle every day for the rest of your life and stopped going on another diet?

Maybe your think your relationship sucks and your marriage is failing. Ok ruling out abuse because that’s an obvious, why does it suck? Is it because you are focusing on everything wrong with your spouse. He doesn’t help out around the house enough… she doesn’t ever want to have sex with me…

These are common complaints but if YOU started doing things to make him or her happy instead of complaining about what they don’t do all the time then things would change. You want your woman to have sex with you more? Start helping around the house without her asking! Start asking if she needs anything. Bring her flowers just because.  Say nice things to her. Pay attention when she talks.

All the things you did when the relationship was new, when you were giddy and infatuated.

You want your husband to help you more? Ask him what you can do for him. Don’t nag. Ask him to help with the dishes instead of yelling because he doesn’t and then angrily doing the dishes anyway. Start focusing on all the things he does do for you! Thank him for going to work every day. Acknowledge when he does kind things. Have sex with him, lol.

If you want to be happy in this crazy world focus on the good things. Focus on everything you have instead of what you don’t. Say a prayer or write in a journal daily and name everything you’re grateful to have. Things like a healthy body, there are so many people who are sick. That you live in a free country.

The fact that you have access to the internet and can read this. You could be living in some country like North Korea where they literally don’t even know that the internet is.

Be thankful for those family and friends that you have in your life.

It’s easy to get caught up in the negative. In fact I’d say that as humans it’s a natural thing for a lot of us to worry, stress and complain.

It takes a while to change your mindset if this is you but every time you think of something negative or hear yourself complain, stop and recognize that you’re doing it.

Honestly, just being glad that you have what you have, is when things start to change.

When you have friends that complain a lot they probably bring you down. Maybe you should consider hanging out with other people or point out to them what they are doing.

If you have a spouse that is a complainer, every time they whine about something, kindly point out something that you like about them or something that they have. Not in a condescending tone. It’s ALL in the way you say things!

Like, “uh, I hate my job.” You could say, “I know it’s not exactly what you want right now, but it gets us by. I’m thankful that you’re working.” Or you could encourage them to go for a job that they really want.

If you never seem to have any money extra money then think about why you always run out of money. Is it because you’re spending too much on unnecessary things? Do you have a car payment that’s really high when you could get a less expensive vehicle? Take action to make yourself less stressed and unhappy.

I could go on and on about scenarios but in the end guide to being happy is being grateful.

Saying positive things (even if you don’t believe it at first) and getting rid of the negativity in your life.

And just living a life worth living! Go for what you want in life. Don’t let fear hold you back.

Take action!

I hope reading this helps you in some way. Enjoy life. Be grateful. Love.















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Dangers Of Tanning Beds Pt 2

Like the title says, this is Part 2 so if you haven’t read that yet, you want to go back and do so. Having said that, I did a lot of research on this topic. I want everyone to know how dangerous too much tanning can be.

People have been told for fifty some years that smoking cigarettes causes cancer; it states this on every box, and it is taught in schools. There is an age restriction on cigarettes with good reason. New research from AMA Dermatology has released a study, International Prevalence of Indoor Tanning – A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis. “The number of skin cancer cases due to tanning is higher than the number of lung cancer cases due to smoking. What is the reason that tanning is not in the same category as cigarettes? In the US alone, 419,254 cases of skin cancer can be attributed to indoor tanning.”(Skin Cancer Foundation).

Furthermore, other than cancer people do not smoke cigarettes because the toll it takes on one’s appearance. Smoking causes the skin to age faster and so does tanning. On the WebMD website Kathleen Doheny writes, “Whether the exposure is indoors or outdoors, ultraviolet exposure over time causes what doctors call ‘photo aging,’ or wrinkles and a leathery look. German researchers evaluated 59 people who voluntarily started to use sun beds over a three-month period. Use of the sun bed induced a DNA mutation in the skin known to be linked with photo aging.” There is also yet another study that proved ultraviolet radiation exposure from the sun speeds up DNA mutations in human skin associated with premature aging. Some even call the tanning bed an “aging machine.”

If one looks into history, tanned skin is a fairly recent fad, and it is most popular among Caucasian women in Europe, the United States, and Brazil. Looking at China, Japan, India, and other nations the people want a fairer complexion. Some even use skin lighteners. Historically, fair skin indicated a higher status because tanned skin meant a person worked outside and pale skin meant one could afford to stay inside out of the sun. From ancient Egypt to the Middle Ages to the 18th and 19th century’s people, women, especially, sought-after  pale skin and saw it as beautiful. It was not until the 1920’s when fashion icon Coco Chanel made tanned skin popular because it meant a person had money to travel; it also signified relaxation, fun, the outdoors, physical fitness, and health. (Skin Cancer Foundation)

So with all this information why do women keep tanning? Many women say that they tan to get their vitamin D. “Indoor tanning is not a safe way to get vitamin D,” The Center for Disease Control says, “Although it is important to get enough vitamin D, the safest way to do so is through what you eat. Tanning harms your skin, and the amount of UV exposure you need to get enough vitamin D is hard to measure because it is different for every person and also varies with the weather, latitude, altitude, and more.”

True or false: a person needs sunlight to get Vitamin D? False. Although one does get Vitamin D through the sunlight, Vitamin D can also be bought in capsule forms to be ingested with no risk of getting cancer. Kathleen Doheny also writes, “Limited exposure to natural sun – exposing skin to about 2 to 10 minutes a day without sunscreen – is recommended by some experts as a way to produce enough vitamin D, but Fisher and others don’t agree that’s best. ‘There is no need to get your vitamin D from UV radiation,’ Fisher says. ‘You can get it from a pill.’ Many foods are also fortified with vitamin D such as milk.”

I think it’s actually good to get sunshine on your exposed skin but it only takes 10 minutes to get the vitamin D you need. Sunscreen should be used after that.  Even with all this evidence of skin cancer and wrinkles at the least, there are still benefits of being in the real sun and not artificial rays of the tanning beds. The question may be asked, how much sun is okay and what are the benefits? Teens should know how sunlight works on their bodies, so they will prefer natural sun to artificial from the tanning beds. “While severe sunburn is known to be a trigger for melanoma regular, moderate sun exposure under the right conditions is now thought to actually help prevent this often fatal malignancy,” says writer Carol Caplin.

  Research shows, sunshine, real sunshine, may also help prevent diabetes, multiple sclerosis, heart disease, high blood pressure and osteoporosis. The reason why people tend to be in better moods in the sunshine is due to the stimulation the hypothalamus, the area of the brain that produces serotonin. This regulates sleep patterns, mood swings and hormonal cycles. (Caplin, 2003) In short if people know about the benefits of natural sun light they will avoid the dangerous artificial.

You should know how much exposure is okay and Sara Hiom head of health information at Cancer Research UK says, “For the average fair-skinned person, we would recommend around 15 minutes, two to three times a week, with your arms, face and maybe legs uncovered.” She also explains that everyone is different but sunscreen should be worn to protect oneself from burning if he or she is out in the sun longer than fifteen minutes. Dr Mark Palmer, a specialist in cosmetic dermatology, says that even when wearing SPF 30, people often burn, because they have applied the lotion too thinly. “The effectiveness of sunscreens increases exponentially the more you apply, so if you use factor 30, but put on a quarter of the amount you need, you will actually only be getting a sun protection factor of two or four.” When applying sunscreen make sure enough is being used and being reapplied every two hours and after getting into water.  Everyone should learn to protect their skin even from natural light, as the sun can still cause skin cancer.

Although some doctors recommend some short amounts of time in the sun with bare skin, all of them agree that tanning beds are dangerous. A legal adult has the right to make his or her own choices but they should be made aware of the risks. These tanning beds are proven to cause a deadly form of cancer and at an alarming rate. If tanning beds cause higher rates of skin cancer than cigarettes cause lung cancer, they should be banned to minors, there is no question. Tanning beds are labeled as a carcinogenic, the same category as mustard gas, as previously mentioned. With all of this known information, the real question is, why has the ban on tanning to minors not happened already on a nationwide level?






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The Dangers Of Tanning Beds Pt 1

I love having a beautiful golden tan just as much as the next girl but is it worth the risk? I did a fair amount of research on this topic and I want to warn everyone out there that baking in the tanning bed or ever laying out in the sun and getting burned is much more dangerous than you think. Take this story for example.

A young girl in high school with a beautiful glowing tan stands in front of the mirror. She goes tanning to the salon once or twice a week to keep up with the other girls, even though she is naturally fair-skinned. Her grandmother tells her she’s concerned with her tanning after watching a talk show about the dangers of tanning, she laughs it off  and keeps going off and on and also enjoys being outside with no sunscreen. Now in college that same girl stands in front of a different mirror and notices a mole that has changed black. She discredits it and puts of going to the dermatologist for a few months. She decides to finally make an appointment, and the doctor tells her it could be nothing to worry about, but he removes the mole to get it tested. A week later the lab results come back, and the doctor informs her that she has melanoma. Her mouth goes dry and a small panic sets in. He tells her it is cancer and that she will have to come back to check to see if it has spread. If it has spread far, she will have to get radiation, she could die.


(photo source:brownwoodfitnesscenter.com)

            This is actually my story but in reality my lab results came back as “atypical”, which the doctors told me meant it pre-cancerous. At some point it may or may not have turned to cancer. Yet, there are many girls who are not so lucky. “Glenna Kohl pursued a tan, both in the sun and in tanning beds — which new research shows are far deadlier than once thought,” says magazine writer Stephanie Booth. By 22, she was battling the most lethal form of skin cancer and at age 26, she was dead. So young to die, and yet it was a completely preventable disease. It was concluded that the disease was the result of her long exposure to the sun as a lifeguard and through the use of indoor-tanning beds. (Booth, 2009)  Sunscreen and the warning of the dangers of tanning beds could have saved her life.

The rate at which young women are getting skin cancer is at an all-time high. The American Cancer Society says nearly 70,000 U.S. melanoma cases were diagnosed in 2009. All require surgery, and some are fatal. (The Charleston Gazette) The International Agency for Research on Cancer announced that the ultraviolet lights of tanning beds are carcinogenic to humans. The new research places tanning beds in the same category as mustard gas, arsenic and asbestos! (Sobel, 2009)

It is hard to imagine that tanning is in the same category as mustard gas but the effects of tanning beds are much slower and so most people do not realize the damage it is causing their bodies. The percentage at which indoor tanning increases melanoma is alarming, “Indoor tanning before the age of 35 increases one’s risk for melanoma by 75%,” says Mary Kate Baker, a student and at East Tennessee State University who wrote her dissertation on this subject. The Skin Cancer Foundation reports, “Over the past 40 years, rates of this potentially deadly skin cancer (melanoma) grew by 800 percent among young women and 400 percent among young men.”

If you have a sister, daughter, friend, mother anyone you know especially who is still a teen please share this with them. It is crucial that everyone be taught the dangers of tanning and especially adolescence.

“Restricting teens’ access to indoor tanning is critical to preventing skin cancer,” says board-certified dermatologist Brett M. Coldiron, MD, FAAD, president of the AADA. “Therefore, we will continue to communicate to the FDA the need for stricter regulations on the use and sale of indoor tanning devices for minors under the age of 18.”

Every time a person gets into a tanning bed the risk for skin cancer increases, although every person is different on how fast, and when or if they will get melanoma. Tanning is especially popular among young women where the pressures to be tan and beautiful are growing.  “Our survey underscores the importance of educating young women about the very real risks of tanning, as melanoma – the deadliest form of skin cancer – is increasing faster in females 15 to 29 years old than in males of the same age group,” said dermatologist Ronald L. Moy, MD, FAAD, president of the Academy. “In fact, most young women with melanoma are developing it on their torso, which may be the result of high-risk tanning behaviors such as indoor tanning. In my practice, I have had patients – young women with a history using tanning beds – who have died from melanoma.”

The tanning industry would like the public and their consumers to believe that their tanning beds are safe. Some even say that it is not “proven” that tanning beds cause skin cancer. The Indoor Tanning Association (ITA) encourages those who will be exposed to the sun, such as beach goers, to tan responsibly. They say, “While moderate exposure to UV light is necessary for good health, overexposure to UV light can be a dangerous byproduct of too much time in the sun. In order for tanners to get all the benefits UV light, such as Vitamin D, without the negative effects of overexposure, such as sunburn. They recommend getting a base tan.”

I fooled myself into thinking i needed a base tan too but it’s just not worth it.  A person gets a base tan by going to indoor tanning salons before spending lots of time in the sun, say a vacation because it increases your exposure to ultraviolet light without burning. The ITA also claims that indoor tanning is safer than outdoor tanning. “A good way to minimize the risk of contracting sunburn is to tan indoors where the beds are regulated by the FDA, professional staff can monitor how a particular skin-type responds to UV light, and your body can benefit from an even tan without overexposing any one part” (PR Newswire).

However, Joanne Di Nardo, a Senior Manager, with Public Issues, Canadian Cancer Society, Ontario division argues against that. “Getting a tan from a tanning does not protect you from the sun and in fact could be more harmful.” Evidence shows that tanning beds can expose a user to five times more ultraviolet radiation than the mid-day summer sun. In reality, a base tan from natural or artificial sources offers the equivalent to an SPF level of only 2 or 3, when the FDA recommends at least SPF 15 at a minimum. (Canada Newswire, 2013.)

Researchers also say that the link between ultraviolet exposure from the sun or tanning beds and melanoma is indisputable “There is no question that ultraviolet exposure is associated with an increased risk of melanoma,” says Fisher, who is also the president of the Society for Melanoma Research. (Doheny, 2008)


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On Body Shaming


I find it peculiar that most of the body shaming crap is entirely one sided as of late.

I can’t tell you how many times people have told me I should “eat more” that I “need to eat a cheese burger” I’m, “too skinny”, and now that I’m pregnant, that my “belly is too small.”  And big surprise “So I need to eat more.”  I get that some are joking but I think they’re serious behind the laughter, honestly.


   If I were overweight would anyone tell me to stop eating so much besides maybe a doctor? Would they say “Damn, lay off the cheese burgers you’re getting too big”?

Or if I started gaining a ton of weight during this pregnancy would someone say, “Eating for two, huh?”

99% of people would not say a word. And if they did everyone would be in an uproar about it!

I’ve been wanting to write about this for a while but a news story I saw today set this off for me. This is an ad going around in the UK and thousands are apparently petitioning to get it removed because it’s “body shaming”. They are trying to ban ALL ads like this now. Like for real.

Also, note the writing on the wall.bodyshaming(Photo source http://www.itv.com/news/2015-07-01/beach-body-ready-ad-ruled-inoffensive/)

OH But this isn’t body shaming because they don’t look like the girl above?

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(photo source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3062882/Yes-beach-body-ready-New-poster-featuring-curvy-bikini-clad-women-spoofs-controversial-Protein-World-ad.html)

            Why is it that a lean woman in a bikini makes people so angry? Does someone else’s appearance really make people feel so bad about themselves? If that ad makes you angry, instead of “poor me” thinking, how about you do something about it instead of whine. theBombshellInitiative.com        Or maybe we all need to just stop comparing bodies and be happy with ourselves. OR maybe people need to stop being so damn sensitive. (And in case you didn’t notice, none of the women in the Dove Ad photo’s are fat.)

The girl in the ad being slammed doesn’t look starving to me. Yes, she’s thin (too thin in some people’s eyes?) compared to the average person in any developed country BUT the average person is now also considered overweight.

Statistically in the U.S. (this is where I live so I’m using it as reference) and according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services

  • More than two-thirds (68.8 percent) of adults are considered to be overweight or  obese.
  • More than one-third (35.7 percent) of adults are considered to be obese.
  • More than 1 in 20 (6.3 percent) have extreme obesity.

Reference: http://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/Pages/overweight-obesity-statistics.aspx

I get that the ad is insinuating that to be “beach body ready” a woman needs to look like her by having a small waist and thin legs. And most likely she’s been photo shopped in some way. This insinuation isn’t true. Go to the beach with ANY body.

    But seriously, it’s a catchy slogan. That’s all. The only reason ads like this work is because a vast majority of women wish they looked like her. SHE sells their product with her BODY.

The weight loss industry makes billions a year for a reason.

Still, there are those who get offended because the ad is basically telling the reader to lose weight.

      It’s not unrealistic to eat a healthy diet and exercise or to look similar to the woman in the ad. I was very healthy and looked close to what she does (before pregnancy, I now have a belly) and guess what? It wasn’t that hard to do once I decided to get active and changed my diet up.meMaybe I’m not as “skinny” as the model here but does it bother me? No. We have different body types. So what?

I eat real food, not processed junk or fast food all the time (like I once did) and I only eat when I’m hungry. Crazy concept, I know. I’m healthy, that’s what matters. Most likely the model is healthy too.

Ever since I began losing weight years ago, I faced a lot of back lash. It’s as though people around me wanted me to stay unhealthy and fat.

At 185lbs I was determined to lose some poundage so I’d skip out on the ice cream and burgers and fries for a long time but people would tell me “just have some. It’s not a big deal” or “what? You’re not ever going to eat ice cream again?”

Which of course was over exaggerating. Sure, I eat ice cream and burgers just not as much as I used to.

It frustrated me so much because here I was trying so hard to lose weight, struggling daily, to get healthy and people were sabotaging me.

   SHAMING me for trying to be healthy.

      I ignored most of it but to this day it bothers me that people make comments all the time about what I’m eating or NOT eating. It bothers me that people didn’t comment on what I ate when I was overweight but it’s okay now that i’m not?   #doublestandard


            So why is it okay for people to body shame the fit model or me or anyone trying to lose weight and get fit but it’s the end of the world, if heaven forbid, someone says for an overweight person who is ruining their health to do something about it?

You can destroy a friendship for life by telling someone they need to lose weight or mention they shouldn’t have that second or third cookie if said person is fat but tell someone who’s a normal healthy weight they need to eat more and it’s no big deal.

I know how it feels to be the “chubby girl” but never did I once hate myself or get offended because someone else’s appearance. It’s an internal issue not an outward one.

Sure I’m guilty of making comments.When I was a kid I used to call my brother “string bean” because he was so scrawny and he’d get mad. Lucky for him he never called me chubby or fat because I’m older lol. Of course it would have hurt my feelings but it hurt his that i called him names just the same.

The only time someone should the concerned about someone being “so skinny, they need to eat more” is if that man or woman is extremely underweight and has an eating disorder. Only then is it unhealthy! Only then should it be a concern.

I’m most definitely not promoting the shaming of ANY BODY. Especially anyone who is overweight. It disgusts me when people make fun of someone in the gym who is heavy. Like HELLO they are there to better themselves. If how ugly the person who makes fun of others for their weight were on the inside showed on the outside maybe we’d all be laughing at them?

Weight is a sensitive issue for many. It’s not easy to lose weight and change habits. If it was then no one would have a problem. Some people are naturally skinny and have a hard time gaining weight. Some women wished they had more curves! Someone else’s weight whether thin of fat simply doesn’t need to be commented on.

Shaming isn’t the right way to go about it. I don’t know a single person who decided to lose weight because people made fun of them for their size, in fact it usually has the opposite effect. Or a woman that’s “too thin” suddenly decides to eat more because you said so. People don’t work like that so how about everyone just keeps their body shaming thoughts to themselves for either side.

Encouraging a healthy lifestyle by leading a healthy lifestyle is a good way to inspire others. But someone who isn’t healthy and tries to bring someone else down because of it, shut up.

I only bring this up because I don’t think this side of the coin is talked about much.

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